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submitted 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago) by daannii@lemmy.world to c/cat@lemmy.world

I got a second cat back in April and it's been drama drama drama.

I followed suggestions online.

Kept them separated.

Slowly introduced them.

Bought pheromone calming diffusers.

Both are neutered males. My old cat is 11. The new one is probably 2yrs or so.

I've tried to do what I can but ultimately, they don't like each other and I don't think they ever will.

Here it is 4 months later and at least once a day, the newer cat Noir attacks my old cat Paxton.

Usually tries to sneak up on him when he's sleeping and put the smack down on him.

My old cat also has poor vision and is , well old and a little overweight so it's not a fair fight. Almost always I see Paxton roll over on to his back with his legs out.

I don't know if this posture means something other than defensive. Submission?

I've tried using a water squirt bottle to deter Noir. And it will definitely chase him off, it doesn't seem to stop him from making these attempts.

Every now and then the older cat initiates the attack.

The attacks are usually short but that's because I am always there with the squirt bottle to break it up.

It's honestly incredibly exhausting. I work from home and it feels like all day supervision.

They also definitely try to antagonize each other multiple times a day. Blocking each others path. Following each other around. Stalking , hissing.

Should I just let them duke it out?

Should I keep intervening with the squirt bottle ?

Will two cats who don't like each other ever learn to just give each other space ?

Also I swear they both be farting a lot when they fighting. Is that a thing ?

What are some of your experiences with two cats who hate each other ?

Please tell me the drama will chill out.

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[-] daannii@lemmy.world 5 points 21 hours ago

Yeah that has crossed my mind too. A proximity vibration would be great. I haven't seen anything where you get two collars that vibrate when they get too close.

Someone should make one of those.

[-] rollin@piefed.social 5 points 17 hours ago

You could try getting collars with just a simple bell on. These make enough noise to prevent one cat sneaking up on the other so at least the younger cat won't be pouncing on Paxton. It might help defuse the situation.

[-] daannii@lemmy.world 1 points 7 hours ago

Yeah that might be realistic.
At least to wear during the day time.

I'm a light sleeper and don't want to hear the bells all night.

I keep the cats separated at night so that could work. Not a bad idea and inexpensive/easy to try.

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