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What was that all about? I didn’t really pay attention to that discourse at the time, but I heard someone use the term “man bun” recently and I wondered if it is just gender essentialism / toxic masculinity / “boys have short hair and girls have long hair” ridiculous gender norms.

I get it, you’re uncomfortable with men doing “feminine” things like putting their hair up

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Enby AMAB with a bun, yeah I remember and still hear it occasionally even now, and each time it makes me really quite uncomfortable and sad

It's only ever from women who I haven't came out to so I don't hold it against them, but it's still a difficult brush to get tarred with and it always makes my heart sink

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this post was submitted on 08 Aug 2026
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