What is your take on romantic love? How do you experience it? (lemmy.world)

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This question might be too abstract. But it seems like people look for different aspects in romantic relationships. There are the ones that are drawn to opposite traits, ones seeking excitement, ones that wish for a stable anchor in their life, etc. And most of this happens subconsciously – or it does not. Maybe you have a different approach to love. Tell me about it.

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[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 3 points 18 hours ago

Honestly? Friendship plus sex/lust/physical love. I care for my husband as a friend and we enjoy each other sexually, that's the romantic element.

There are other aspects to our marriage of course, we plan together and have a family and financial alliance, all the old stuff marriage was for, I guess. Except procreation, we each brought our own kids but now they are also each others' family and allies. But the romantic piece to me is the part related to sex.

And I lean much more towards an opposite/complementary partner not someone like me. We are quite different but so strong together.

[-] tmyakal@infosec.pub 5 points 18 hours ago

Yeah, this is pretty much the definition of the Triangle Theory of Love . Intimacy is friendship and familiarity. Passion is the joy and desire for knocking boots. Commitment is making plans and integrating goals/finances/families. If you hit all three of those chords, boom! Consummate love.

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