It's not fine. and it is a pandemic, due to the hyper fueled social media gender war bullshit that so many single people consume. it's also escalating. 10 years ago nobody was, on a first date, telling me in my face what a piece of shit I was to my face for not having a high enough salary for them, when my salary is higher than theirs, now that's like every 4th woman I meet, and pretty much every other woman i meet demands to know my 'stats' off the bat.

it is not a small subset of women at all, it's the vast majority of dating profiles I see who loudly and proudly declare their sexist double standards and abusive behaviors. men, at least, get called out and socially punished for it, women, get celebrated and their victims get punished and called out. women's abuse and violence towards men is considered 'corrective' or 'justice'. this morning I must have swiped left like 30 times alone, simple due to toxic sexist weird shit on profiles.

the small subset is the women who aren't toxic, who actually take accountability for their emotions and their actions, and actually communicate with their partners. and who have realistic expectations for their lives, rather than being perpetually embittered their life isn't a social media reel. and they aren't on the dating market because they are largely coupled up. I meet many nice women at events this way, but they are never single. The single ones are the ones who are in the corner, and act with hostility and snide remarks if you try to interact with them, so you leave them alone.

in the past 5 years I've only had like 1-2 normal nice dates (who were not american btw), the majority were one flavor of hostile and angry or another, who absolutely blamed me or other men for their 'unhappiness', which really is a product of their their own poor choices and shallow pursuits. But you can't call them out, so you just sit there, listen to them rant, and say 'thanks, hope you find someone nice' and then they scream at you or sometimes attempt to hit or throw something at you. because HOW DARE YOU REJECT THEM, they are suppose to reject you you worthless man!

That said, 10-15 years ago, the majority of my dates were nice and normal folks. But that was also before social media warped everyone's brains. Things didn't used to be like this, but now everyone is so drugged up on rage and hostility and hate, well that's all they can see in the world and all they bring to it. And I, for one, want nothing to do with that shit.