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The next generation of boomer memes (hexbear.net)
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It's so sad

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[–] 31 points 3 years ago* (4 children)

What's up with your MIL? Is it standard sort of racism or bigotry?

Because I'm scared to have kids and introduce them to my parents. My potential kids would learn slurs just from the everyday conversations my parents have.

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  • [–] 32 points 3 years ago (3 children)

    My MIL has just been generally unsympathetic to my wife's mental health. We tried to be considerate because my MIL was raised in a different time where that kind of stuff was just shut away.

    She recently said some very nasty stuff to my wife along the lines of "You won't be a good mother because of your mental health".

    We've tried to mend that with talks but she never really understood the damage she caused. Giving half apologies like "I'm sorry you took it that way" or "I'm sorry you feel that way".

    We haven't received a true apology and we're starting to accept that we aren't going to get one. She thinks we're overreacting and tries to act like nothing is wrong and tries to interact with us as normal.

    So we finally set our boundaries for our peace of mind. And she's starting to get consequences from those boundaries.

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  • [–] 28 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    Wait, your MIL is talking to her own daughter that way? What the hell, it's just genuine cruelty at this point. Your MIL won't listen to reason, you're probably right to cut her off. God, I'm really sorry you have to deal with this.

    I hope you and your wife are doing well otherwise.

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  • [–] 22 points 3 years ago

    There were signs of manipulation before everything blew up but it really came to a head once my wife recognized the signs.

    I'm just glad to be out of the situation. I'm sure it's far from over but the hard cut has worked wonder's on our mental state.

    Thanks for the kind words.

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