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Just because you can't imagine other scenarios besides the ones you listed doesn't mean there are none.
People can be exhausted for different reasons.
What's silly is seeing you gatekeeping the way you are in this very thread of all.
edit: grammar
It's the lack of sleep when you have a new born that is the challenge.
I'm sure there are random jobs where you are worked to the bone and then transit home and do it again, too early, that give a similar lack if sleep.
When I had cancer I had daily neck radiation for 2 months, and chemo. Those fatique the hell out of you as the cell destruction is processed by the body. I had 3 teens to take care of by myself as a single dad, and being self employed still had to manage 20 hours of contract work to keep paying bills. I found that easier then the newborn stages, because sleep was on my schedule not a random time.
Is a new born the sole possible reason for ongoing and random sleep deprivation?
I doubt it, even though it aligns with your experience.
Besides, not all new born pose the challenge you described.
Is it really so hard to realize that the world most of the time just is bigger than it seems?
There are plenty reasons to be exhausted...
Some people might have luck, but a newborn doesn't care when night or day is, and can wake every two hours and need care. Its the most exhausting thing most parents go through...says the parents group we belonged to. Its why some people hire an after birth doula, and why multi generational families in one home is a huge help.
It was honestly more exhausting than working 55-60 hours a week and doing my nightschool program at the same time.
There's a reason sleep deprivation is used in torture
You realize I don't say that new borns can't be exhausting?
I'm saying it's not the only reason in existence.
I believe you were exhausted and sleep deprived and I'm sorry it was this hard for you.
Can't you believe other people can be exhausted, sleep deprived, out of energy too and even for different reasons?
Of course, if you reread my comment I mentioned other random jobs may also do that.
I have seen people say sleep deprivation from mental health can also be exhausting af . The difference with a self issue is a doctor can often prescribe a sleeping pill so you can get rest. But a parent can't choose that if they don't have a person they can rely on for child care in the night.
For another example my wife has a disability, she works 2-3 hours and drives home, so mentally and physically tired that she pulls over about halfway home and sleeps at the side of the road for half hour, before continuing the journey. She is that exhausted.
Now imagine somebody else controls when she could take that needed sleep time.
Beyond scenarios that you don't have experience with, there are also physiologies you don't have experience with.
People with ADHD find some activities that are generally considered exhausting relaxing. Also they might argue folding the laundry is more exhausting than perhaps anything.
I would rather fix a machine that is literally on fire than fold laundry.