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[+] Barley_Man@sopuli.xyz -8 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

Cat parents

Your cat is a grown ass adult. You're a grown ass adult. You're not the parent of your cat. It's your pet, your friend, or your family member. But it's not your kid.

[-] MutantTailThing@lemmy.world 7 points 1 hour ago

Calm your tits bruv.

[-] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 12 points 2 hours ago

My parents and I are all grown ass-adults.

All family members are members of the family.

[+] Barley_Man@sopuli.xyz -6 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

I'm guessing your parents didn't adopt you as an adult. Nevertheless I'm sick of this pet parent thing .I have a human child and when we were recently visiting my wife's brother, who has 2 lovely cats, he couldn't stop comparing his cats with our kid. Like when we were talking about how our kid is like this or like that, he would always reply "yes I totally understand, my cat is the same way!". It's so obnoxious. Like I'm super happy you love your cat but it's really not the same! He even dared to say we had it easy because he and his girlfriend were both working full time while my wife currently does not work, so we must have an easier time caring for our newborn baby than they have caring for their two adult ass cats who sleep 16 hours a day! It's insane. I'm going insane! It's not the same!

[-] interdimensional_sharts@lemmy.world 1 points 6 minutes ago

Jesus Christ you seem quite miserable. I’m not sure what you’re going through, but I genuinely hope it gets better for you, and that you’re able to find some peace soon.

[-] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 7 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

This sounds like a conversation you should be having with your brother-in-law.

I am fully aware that my cats require far fewer resources than my stepsons, but that doesn't prevent me from counting them as a valuable part of the family unit.

Also, we adopted all of our cats as very young kittens.

[-] Barley_Man@sopuli.xyz -4 points 1 hour ago

I'm totally okay with counting them as part of the family as stated in my first comment. I had cats myself from 9 to 23. Thinking of getting cats again in the future. It's strictly the parent label that irks me the wrong way.

[-] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

Is there a right way to be irked?

Why does that specific label bother you? What defines "acceptable" parenthood to you?

[-] lime@feddit.nu 4 points 1 hour ago

why do you care? genuine question. ask it of yourself and mull over what the answer says about you. if you can't come up with one, i recommend talking to a professional.

[-] Barley_Man@sopuli.xyz -1 points 58 minutes ago* (last edited 50 minutes ago)

I would define being a parent as either having adopted a human being or having conceived a human being. Why do I care? I think words should have a useful meaning. If we broaden it to anyone who has a pet then we would require a new word for those that have a human child because in some cases that distinction is important because it is truly fundamentally different in several ways. If someone organized a local meetup group for new parents it should be understood that people who have recently adopted a cat would not be welcome. If the word parent is broadened in this way what would we then have to call that group, a "new human parent group"?

I can ask you: what are you missing in the term "cat owner" that you feel you need to use "cat parent" instead?