No, my downvote is not cruel. You are engaging in absurdity and frivolity to distract yourself because you are not willing to emotionally process what is actually a very difficult topic, one's own cruelty and violence. Like a child, you just say whatever obvious nonsense comes to mind. The content of what you say isn't important, as long as it functions as a distraction.

Whether or not it's "the only way" does not attempt to refute my point that it harms the person doing it. There is a cost. That's just more misdirection.

Ultimately you will "win" every argument this way, because bad speech is cheaper than good speech, and you can just keep saying nonsense until the problem goes away. Congratulations, you found the loophole to never having to have a real thought.