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Currently down about 120lbs after 8 years of going up and down. Net loss is 200lbs, given I had some regains over the years. Now, I'm down from 300lbs to 178lbs and ever since I passed 185lbs, I've had a lot more oppurtunities with women.

It feels weird, not gonna lie, it just sorta happened out of nowhere. A lot more women smile at me, talk to me, and look at me more. The attention I started getting just feels like a glimpse really. Not massive amounts, but noticably more. I'm still 10lbs away from being done entirely, as I do still look a bit husky at 178lbs.

Though, it's not just women, but people in general have been treating me better, even strangers. I will finally reach normal weight for the first time ever in the next couple weeks (173lbs according to my BMI) and I can't be more excited to finally see it!

For those who lost weight, what was it like for you? Did people start treating you differently?

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[–] 19 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Definitely. I started taking karate in 11th grade and went from almost 300lbs down to 200.

I became visible at that point. People noticed me and talked to me. When I went to college, girls were pursuing ME. It was all very new and strange to me, and I definitely missed some opportunities, just because I didn't always understand when people were flirting with me. It just wasn't anything I had experienced before.

I'm old and fat again, but I think being fit for a while taught me how to project "thin guy energy". Fat is not just a state of body, it's also a state of mind.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    I started taking karate in 11th grade

    Karate's also really good for your posture, which might have changed perceptions of you. BTW most shotokan schools are very welcoming of older people.

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