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How did people treat you after losing weight? (lemmy.world)

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Currently down about 120lbs after 8 years of going up and down. Net loss is 200lbs, given I had some regains over the years. Now, I'm down from 300lbs to 178lbs and ever since I passed 185lbs, I've had a lot more oppurtunities with women.

It feels weird, not gonna lie, it just sorta happened out of nowhere. A lot more women smile at me, talk to me, and look at me more. The attention I started getting just feels like a glimpse really. Not massive amounts, but noticably more. I'm still 10lbs away from being done entirely, as I do still look a bit husky at 178lbs.

Though, it's not just women, but people in general have been treating me better, even strangers. I will finally reach normal weight for the first time ever in the next couple weeks (173lbs according to my BMI) and I can't be more excited to finally see it!

For those who lost weight, what was it like for you? Did people start treating you differently?

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[-] KubrickFR@lemmy.world 6 points 13 hours ago

Oh yes!

Currently down from 160 to 100kg (350 to 220lbs) and almost everyone is treating me differently. Many people didn't make eye contact with me either on the street or in shops, some were visibly unconfortable (or slightly afraid). I had remarks all the time about how big (not fat, just imposing) I was.

Now cashers smile at me, people on the street are more friendly. It's night and day and it saddens me in a way. I didn't lose weight for appearence reason but for my health, and to see for the first time how people are (were towards me) judgmental is kinda sickening.

I just though people are sometimes a bit cold but never really associated it with my weight.

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