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I forgot that it's my mega week so no big info dump this time. Instead I bring a question: how do you practice gender self-care? Do you have any activities or rituals that make you feel more comfortable in your gender? Painting my nails and taking care of my hair are the most consistent ones. These shouldn't even be considered gendered activities by society, but I missed out on having long hair and painted nails when I was younger because of my assigned gender, so doing them now feels validating and gives me confidence.


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It has fortunately been removed now, but that was such a trainwreck of a post. Literally not a single truthful sentence in there, it would have been impossible to handle that subject in a worse way and then several cis dudes show up in the replies and say they are "here to listen" because obviously they do not know better. Horrible.

[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 4 points 21 hours ago

Honestly I just latched onto that one line so hard because of how ridiculous and terfy it is. I didn't look at much of the rest of it. Pisses me off that was allowed to go u checked, 50+ upvotes, no one removes it.

Yea I saw that too, I hope they actually did check back with the thread later to see all our problems with it. Also thank you for having the discussion with the other user in the comments, I really didn't have the patience yesterday.

OP made a selfcrit post after so I think she felt some level of bad, I still don't like her response to what I said though. But I didn't persue it any further. I know you were also pretty bothered by the post so maybe you want to look at it.

It was horrible though, pisses me off to see rhetoric like that on this site of all places. And that it was just allowed to sit there for 16+ hours, get upvotes, whole thing.

[-] SerialExperimentsGay@hexbear.net 5 points 21 hours ago

Yeh, i have replied to her self crit post, i think there's some stuff that she still just doesn't fully grasp. And it's tiring. I mean, the exchange with the other person in the original thread was also tiring, but ultimately it turned out to largely be a misunderstanding and motivated by concern for a loved one, so it ended on a peaceful note. I am actually considering to do my own effortpost take on the GAM now, it has been an important influence for me and everything, but idk when i have the spoons for that.

[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 4 points 20 hours ago

Cool, I'd been checking it to see if there was any discussion but I'm glad you responded to it. Your response was spot on and I'm glad someone else was able to, I'm not always the best at that type of thing.

I think that'd be really cool if you did, i think it should be addressed but I'm not the right person for it. Understand the spoons though take care of yourself :meow-hug:

[-] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 2 points 18 hours ago

Pisses me off that was allowed to go u checked, 50+ upvotes, no one removes it.

I never finished GAM so I didn't want to reply, but I considered upvoting just to promote someone else refuting the post (which I stopped reading after the part about India...)

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