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This is the first time I'll ever be looking for a place on my own and I have no idea how to go about this. I'm desperate to move out of my parents house due to them both being very controlling and having ridiculous rules about what I should and shouldn't be doing within their home. I'm working two jobs currently and trying to save as much as possible, but I'm not sure whether I can even afford to rent a studio apartment of my own because I'm still making not very much money. I'm considering renting a room somewhere but I don't even know where to look for roommates and I'm terrified of ending up in an even worse living situation with people I don't like. I've tried to seek advice from my family but none of them have anything helpful to say as they've never gone through this on their own like I'm having to. It also sucks because I currently don't have any credit established so securing a place is going to be much more difficult I think. I don't have any friends either that could help with finding a place or by rooming together so I'm just kinda lost.

If you have any advice or tips on what I should I do please let me know, I am very eager to get out of my parents place, I feel like I'm suffocating here.

Thanks <3

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[-] Beaver@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Good advice so far in this thread, and it sounds like you have a decent baseline (job + car) to start with in the USA.

I would start with using various websites to search around for roommates - in the Midwest we use craigslist and facebook groups/marketplace a lot for this, but it will probably be different in California. What you're probably looking for is someone who had a previous roommate move out, and are looking to sublet. They're out there, and they'll be happy to have you. Having a source of income is more important than credit right now, IMO.

Living with strangers as roommates is pretty normal. Sometimes roommates are kinda shitty, but there are various degrees of it - I don't think it's something to be terrified about. You might even find yourself bonding with these other people who you're living with.

Moving out of you're parent's house is an opportunity to change the dynamic with them for the better. Call them, tell them about your week, visit them every so often... but as your own adult person.

You're building up the pyramid of financial independence right now. Make a basic spreadsheet with your income, and all of your monthly expense - writing it down makes it real, and shows you how much you can afford.

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