It makes you wonder what she thought she signed up for.

As if you signed up for an amputation. What is wrong with people!?

This happens more than people want to admit, and it can be sudden after a period of support. Like someone gets cancer and their SO sticks by their side until it gets stage 4, things get really messy and hard, and suddenly they're off starting a new life. My SO is a therapist and has seen it firsthand, it's gruesome and cruel.

Wow. Im sorry you encountered this.

While thankfully I have had nothing amputated (yet... but im diabetic), ive noticed that each of several partners over the years has just been abominable at showing empathy.

For example, if I tried to tell my current SO that im feeling a bit down she would absolutely get the shits with me and tell me how shitty her life is.

Theres something about kicking a dog when its down that some people just cant restrain themselves.

In hind sight, would it have been helpful for your partner to give you a few months to recover before leaving?

I mean it's right there, "for riches and in health, till inconvenience do you part".

My best friend got cheated on and dumped after he got diagnosed with epilepsy. It took a year of fits (one in which he screwed up his back) to get the diagnosis, and it basically meant he had to abandon his career path of working in the police force as a detective and forensic analyst and switch to something different.

It also doesn't help that they both got sacked from a call centre whilst this was going on.