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[-] 1984@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago

Relationships are no happy magic pill either. It seems like that from the outside but there is a lot of arguing and bickering in peoples private lives at home. But yes, its better then being alone for most people, thats why they stick with it even though it feels like hell sometimes.

If I were you, I would find other people on the spectrum and see if you like any of those. You have seen that program Love on the Spectrum right? I loved that show so much. Because under all those difficulties reading body language and communicating, there are beautiful souls inside. You and me are similar inside, its just your brain that is slightly different. You just need to find a good match for that , just like I do, and everyone else.

If you feel like you are losing hope, you should watch that show, it's very good.

[-] wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 day ago

I know they're not a magic pill, but I've been in relationships in the past and they were the happiest times of my life. At least the better ones were; the rest didn't last more than a few months each.

It's been a few years since my last relationship though, and I don't think I'll ever find one again. My life has spiralled, society has become increasingly hostile, I've basically fully isolated myself and stopped even trying to socialize.

I'm getting older, I'm slipping mentally. I don't think I can put in the effort it takes to build a relationship again in the early stages; let alone the effort (and risk) of finding someone to even build a relationship with in the first place. And it's not like it's a matter of more effort = success anyway. I stopped making an effort because it was always leading to dead ends and rejection.

I have not seen the show you're talking about. I don't really watch reality tv. Or tv in general. I don't have any streaming services. And even if I did, I wouldn't want to torture myself by watching other people find love and happiness.

Maybe we're similar and maybe we're different. It's hard to know just from a few comments. I've stopped believing there's "a good match" for me out there though.

It's not that I'm losing hope. I lost hope long ago. Since then I've just been learning to live without hope. I don't need to torture myself by trying to restore it.

[-] 1984@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago

Fair enough. :)

I dont watch reality TV either normally but in this case, I did, since it was about people on the spectrum and I found that very interesting.

They were going on dates and talked about how they were thinking and the show had a lot of heart and warmth that I really liked. Its not a typical ego based show. But of course you know yourself if you want to watch it or not. :)

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