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this post was submitted on 20 May 2026
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Saying "the apps don't match people" and "the apps provide a platform [for matching]" is I guess technically true but disingenuous. You could say, like, libraries don't give you books. You have to go and check it out yourself. Yeah, kind of, but people go there with a purpose the platform is (nominally) intended to fulfill.
I don't know if that's really true. I'm middling attractive and had a lot of success. There are a lot of factors.
I don't think the sweeping generalizations about people are really helpful. Is this making you happy? Are you doing okay in your dating life?
I feel like we've had this conversation before.
the librarian isn't picking the books for you dude. you can also go to other libraries. you have choices. nobody is forcing you to do anything.
your attractiveness is more than your looks, it's more about your relative social status and your dating pool's expectations. everyone who claims they 'arent' attractive but do well' is usually extremely attractive. They live in a bubble.
I do well on apps. I'm classically handsome and I have a Harvard degree. But I don't find people on apps, or IRL to be worth my time anymore. My patience for listening to people whine about how dissatisfied their lives are ended in 30s. When I date now it's mostly them complaining, then me talking about how happy I am with my life, and them thinking I'm a huge asshole for not having 'empathy' for their struggles of not being able afford first class plane tickets on every vacation.
You can go to other platforms, so I'm not sure what this is a rebuttal of.
I mean... if you behave in person like you do here, you might be coming off as not very fun
You're talking with a massive troll. Just look at the comment history.
Yeah, that's one that I didn't even need to tag as an asshole because I already recognize the username so easily.
He's like SMCF but less entertaining and seems to actually believe in his own bullshit.