Exactly. It’s fine to build up flawless versions of people in your mind and to try to emulate those imaginary heroes or draw inspiration from their strengths.

Indeed. And even without looking for heroes, or role models. Try to be the best version of yourself does not mean you have to be perfect, nor that other people should be.

We're all filled with flaws. No matter how amazing we've been told we are, or how amazing we think we are, or even how amazing we can indeed be (lucky you).

Doesn't mean you need to accept the unacceptable, just be realistic. Don't you ever fart in bed? Don't you ever pick your nose? Don't you like to eat some crap from time to time? Don't you like to watch/listen to/read and actually do some real stupid shit, from time to time? I do!

Me? I'm the sum of countless flaws plus a few scarce qualities. I know it and so does my spouse, which is also filled with her own flaws btw, the person who I love today at least as much as I have been loving her for the last 30 years or so we've been together... and counting.

That said, many really really awesome people do exist.

Yes! They're all around us. They're just not perfect and they've not been waiting for us to debark in their life.

So, when we're dismissing them because of their perceived flaws/imperfections, or because of something/someone they like we don't like... we're missing out on their qualities and maybe on getting to meet an amazing friend/partner/someone to spend time with.