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[–] 5 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Organize going out and invite them. If they all say no, go out anyway, spend a little time out, and don't sweat it. Organize again. They will eventually both go with you and invite you to their stuff. That's more or less how society works.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Yeah it sounds easy, but I don't know how to do that. People always flake on me, even when I organized a birthday party a month in advance and picked a time/date that's supposed to work for everyone and checked a week before to make sure everyone was still planning to come. I still ended up alone, until I told people on the day-of that everyone bailed, and I guess four people felt bad enough about it to come over. It felt like a literal pity party.

    I'd say people are too flaky, but maybe they just don't care about me enough. Which leads me to struggle between, "Fine, I don't care about them either," and "My god, I'm so lonely."

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago

    There's this app I found called Meetups which shows me events in my city where I can go to meet people with similar interests and goals and just be out of the house. It helps, the less coup'd up I am the less I'm on social media the better I feel. I thought maybe this could help.

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