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As a second child... I always felt like a "backup" plan to my parents lol

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[-] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 3 points 6 days ago

Really depends on the era.

Today second-born gets all the benefits (or most anyway) without having to really be responsible for anything.

[-] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I get to become a 黑孩子 for the first few years of my life...

Mom always be like: "I had to pay several tens of thousands of ¥ rmb to get your legal identity".

Like I remember she say it so often during my childhood and constantly recounting the story of illegally giving birth to me...

She makes me feel like I owe her a debt... like on top of the "debt" of her taking care of me...

I already got rejected by a government...

I'd feel very sad if she stops talking to me...

Like...

I feel like I need her affirmation to feel like I deserve to exist...

otherwise I'm just some child that's never supposed to be born and even the mom disinherited...

Like... what right do I even have to exist in this world...

So I really need my mom's approval...

[-] Quexotic@infosec.pub 3 points 5 days ago

Sorry dude, that sounds totally toxic. I hope you can reconcile or at least get out of that situation.

this post was submitted on 07 Apr 2026
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