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Flirting (lemmy.ml)

Hi friends. Is it fucked up to flirt with someone with no intention of taking it further? I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship. Sometimes I crave a little validation from strangers. I'm not going to cheat on my partner, but I do have a need to feel desirable to others. I don't feel like a bit of flirting is a betrayal of my relationship, but I'm less confident about how other people feel. Like, I don't want to waste someone else's time, but I guess maybe I am leading people on a bit if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.

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[-] Spike@hexbear.net 20 points 1 day ago

What counts as flirting in the year 2026?

[-] cattish@hexbear.net 15 points 1 day ago

It's flirting only if it comes from the LeadOn region of Gloucestershire, England. Otherwise it's just sparkling conversation.

[-] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 day ago

Honestly for me, friendly attention from a stranger.

[-] oliveoil@hexbear.net 3 points 15 hours ago

Yeah it's nice to have. There is nothing wrong with some friendly attention.

A lot of the feedback you are getting is varied because of how vague a concept flirting really is.

The whole idea is to sus out someone's interest.

[-] Acute_Engles@hexbear.net 17 points 1 day ago

Took me way more comments to realize i also need to know this

[-] WokePalpatine@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I've been flirting with the beautiful mods so they don't remove my posts. It's all about flattery.

[-] Spike@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago
[-] JustSo@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago

some of the perspectives shared make me want to brandonize myself with a railroad spike a little bit.

this post was submitted on 26 Mar 2026
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