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Some people are also consciously or subconsciously looking for a younger partner, because they will put up with their bullshit, while someone more experienced would not. Definitely look out for that, but it's hard to tell in the beginning.
Or maybe the older and more experienced are overly needy when selecting partner and red flag just about anything that isn't precisely in their preferences. Younger tend to be more fluid.
Yeah, it’s hard to know without meeting that other person. Maybe they’ve dated a ton of people in their own age group and are just having no luck whatsoever other than meeting walking red flags. So they’re aiming for a younger person who hasn’t been screwed up in life yet. I know plenty of people In their 30s, who are so screwed up, you wouldn’t want to date them. So I would advise the original poster to go in with their eyes open, but have fun. There are plenty of people who have bigger Age gaps than that and they’re very happy. we really shouldn’t be calling the other person, a pedophile or a creep without having ever met them. I literally the only thing we know about the other person is they’re going out on a date with somebody.
Personally, I would’ve preferred to aimed for somebody who was 23 instead of 18. That five years could make quite a difference, but I’m also not going to judge because at 18 they’re an adult they can do what they want. And i recognize at 18 your brain is still developing. Then again there are people whose age is 45 and the brain is still developing. There are people who are age 38 who are so toxic you wouldn’t want to be anywhere near them, you probably don’t even want to live next to them in the next house over.
Now that's one mature comment.
Best thing to do is to go and see for oneself.
Age per se is no flag. Behaviour is the real thing.
I once looked at some dating apps such as tinder. The lists from 30-50 of what they are searching for was in general like external qualities and for personal traits something that simply do not exist. Only those who could mask themselves, could meet the expectstions. I quickly removed myself.
If there is a possibility to meet person, use it.
there's a huge difference between a 30 yr old and 45 yr old dating, and a 30 yr old dating a 15 yr old-- even though the 15 year age gap is the same
a 33 year old trying to get with a 18 year old is sus af, and i'll die on that hill
Yeah.
I was talking about legslly adults, not minors. Within that bracket age trivial.