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Put the shoes on (thelemmy.club)
submitted 6 months ago by to c/lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world
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[–] 157 points 6 months ago (18 children)

I think this can be explained by the mentality of completely naked means I'm not leaving the house, but naked with shoes means I intend to go somewhere.

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  • [–] 57 points 6 months ago (9 children)

    And in my nightmares I end up at school, and I graduated 30 years ago.

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  • [–] 32 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    As someone diagnosed with PTSD that also has nightmares related to it, I think it’s way underplayed how much public schools give people long term emotional trauma. Not even just bullying, a lot of the expectations schools put on kids are just developmentally unreasonable. It’s not random that so many people have school related nightmares decades after they’ve graduated.

    I think nakedness in dreams is just a common theme for vulnerability, but there’s a reason it’s so tied to school for many people, and it’s not because they’re healthy environments that produce well adjusted young adults.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago

    Not just public schools. I went to private school and still woke up with high school nightmares for years as a college graduate.

    I think the expectations are a part of it, but I also think it's the fact that it's an extremely stressful time period between expectations for one's future, high hormones, major social changes that happen as everyone's brain cooks at a different speed, and the constant fighting for increased independence.

    Like, don't get me wrong I also didn't enjoy being in class, and I've had full on flashbacks to fights with my father over my grades in high school (also have a ptsd diagnosis), but imo the educational elements of high school weren't meaningfully worse than earlier years or college/adulthood. It was being a teenager that was particularly traumatic, and high school was just the location where most of the issues converged

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  • [–] 19 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    if you show up naked to a school at almost 40 i think bad things will happen

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Yes, everyone else will develop acute glaucoma for some reason.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago* (1 child)

    I don't think I've ever gotten naked in public dreams, but I do still get stress dreams about missing an exam or having to make an assignment deadline despite not having been in school for like 20 years.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago*

    I have them where I've forgotten my locker combination or don't have my class schedule. The thing is I actually do remember my last locker combination because I use it as a pin for something so I'm not even sure what my subconscious is on about with that one.

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  • [–] 11 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    I think it's because of the steps removed you are from becoming non-naked. With no shoes, you're simply an underwear away from being non-naked. But with shoes on, you must bend over, remove your shoes, remove your socks, and only then are you free to install underwear on your naked dingaling. Now imagine if your landlord unexpectedly knocks at the door, and you were naked with no shoes versus with shoes. In the first case, you'd be non-naked in a matter of seconds. Whereas, in the second case, you'd be non-naked in about 15 seconds. Not to mention, you'd be in a very compromising position during those 15 seconds, as you'd be bent over in a strange position fiddling with your shoes over your own naked body. Never discount your brain's ability to plan ahead. And don't think this all isn't taken into account when considering how naked you feel with or without shoes. This, I believe, is one of the primary reasons. Okay, thank you for coming to my TED talk, have a blessed day, and fare thee well!

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