submitted 5 months ago by RION@hexbear.net to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net

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(making a dedicated post since this doesn't exactly fit with the mega's trans joy theme)

I asked my sister if I could come over to her place after my doctor's appointment to do therapy. She then lets slip to my mom that I've got an appointment. I've basically told my mom everything about my health except the whole trans thing so me not telling her obviously sets off alarm bells. She knows when my last check-up was and it wouldn't make sense to go to this doctor for a work mandated test. Worst of all since I reset my phone I had read receipts on so she could tell that I read her initial message and didn't respond, so I couldn't take time to think of a casual excuse.

I eventually told her that I was trying to introduce a little privacy in regards to my health thanks to work I'd been doing in therapy, which is true on a variety of levels

Was not expecting to have to deal with this. I'm still waiting a little longer to tell my mom but now this is hanging over me

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[-] RION@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago

The thing is my mom totally would talk to me about her test results or the woes of menopause if I asked, we've just never really had that barrier. Of course being incessant about it is another thing but that's not the issue I'm having here.

We've just been too close for too long. My therapist uses the phrase "emotional incest" which feels a bit loaded but I really have been treated more like a partner than a child when it comes to her problems and emotional needs

[-] tactical_trans_karen@hexbear.net 4 points 5 months ago

Well, that's probably the thing to work on establishing. Probs work with your therapist on how you could broach that.

And DOWN WITH CIS!!! elmofire

[-] RION@hexbear.net 3 points 5 months ago

That's the plan! My therapist sees this as a good outcome to an unexpected event because is et a boundary, but I'm still unsure

[-] tactical_trans_karen@hexbear.net 2 points 5 months ago

Do listen to them. Letting this continue will screw up your relationship with her and that can leak info other relationships by allowing her hangups to wedge between you and friends or partners.

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