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I really am completely and utterly incapable of doing stuff (thebrainbin.org)
submitted 6 months ago by to c/autism@lemmy.world
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I am in Australia, and I had an NDIS cleaner. she used to come once a week and my house was mostly pretty clean. I lost her, and now I have to apparently do the cleaning myself. I really am incapable of doing it. They told me that I am physically capable of doing it, so i have to do it. I can't do it. My house is a fucking mess. stupid government. Anyone have any suggestions? Like to get over the executive dysfunction crap? I tried habitica, and it worked for a short while, but now I'm back to chronic ED.

thanks.

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[–] 6 points 6 months ago (1 child)

Figure out what's eating you and deal with it. There's always something. There's always a path forwards out of every bind you can get in, you just have to find it by knowing yourself. I don't know what flavor of autism you are, but a lot of artists I know have issue feeling their feelings, which is the first step to unclogging yourself.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    I also have trouble feeling my feelings. I can identify the most basic of basic ones, like scared, or depressed, but that's about it. I have tried working on that with therapists and shit, but i never have been able to identify what I'm feeling. So.... that sucks.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    lot of autists have good experience dealing with this with the help of psychoactive substance, not sure of the law/access to that in austrailia but stuff like a small dose of shrooms/weed/lsd etc. in combination with therapy has been shown to work wonders untangling the mess of internal problems we seem to have. a really good therapist/pyschiatrist should be open to the idea

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 6 months ago (3 children)

    unfortunately, all that stuff is illegal here, and I don't want no drug charges :/

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    I have an ex who really found herself with mushrooms. Not my thing at all, but I'm happy she is able to understand herself well that way.

    And for adhd, they generally prescribe stimulants.

    I know a lot of autists also find solace in cannabis or even alcohol.

    You gotta be careful with this stuff though. Addiction is fucking real, and it can really ruin your entire life and people around you. I don't know what you're really like, so I can't responsibly give you any safe advice on this topic other than to take the risks seriously.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

    Feelings can be really hard, period. Then if you're neurodivergent it's harder. And then if you're depressed or something else, that's even more difficult. And if you're younger, you're basically still new to being a human, like running the tutorial trying to figure out the controls and hud system of the game.

    So try not to feel bad about that.

    Sometimes you can kind of infer your own feelings based on an analysis of your situation. It's not 100% accurate and can definitely mislead you sometimes, since everybody isn't the same. Some people feel at home in a garbage heap or cozy when things are cluttered. I'm a bit of that second one since I'm adhd and like things to be immediately available and not put away wrongly, but get overwhelmed and I'm also a bit avoidant.

    A lot of this stuff is trial and error, unfortunately. Try to maybe figure out the basic "good feeling" and "bad feeling" feelings, and if maybe try to figure out if you're feeling closer to one or the other. A good way to do this is to try to break down feelings into a THIS or THAT question. Like, if you wake up in the morning and something's different, you can ask yourself, "do I feel closer to good? Or bad?" Sometimes it can help to try to envision the feeling from memory to see if it feels similar.

    And once you can put yourself nearer to one than the other, and maybe even by how much, you can work out further details from there.

    But, one step at a time.

    I really think that understanding yourself is very important.

    You could also go watch autistic YouTubers or whatever to see if anything they talk about resonates with you.

    I like https://youtube.com/@genericartdad, but again, everybody is different, especially when it comes to this sort of stuff.

    Try not to get sucked into his depressing political topics. That shit will 100% drag you down and make you feel not good. I suggest just sticking to the autism stuff he talks about. He has a playlist of it. https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLfRRWDptN6Nuau-Gm6ApWdK90TpvJWZyr

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