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I’m getting more confident in myself and starting to come out to more people, but I feel like I don’t know how to? It always feels awkward.

Obviously for some people it might need to be more of a conversation, but for friends that I know will be supportive, does it need to be anything more than a text saying “hey, fyi, I’m trans. This is my new name and pronouns”?

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[-] Tywele@piefed.social 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I started with my mom, continued with my best friends and then the rest of my family and at last the rest of my friends. I did everything in person because I felt it wasn't right to do that over text (one exception because we were supposed to meet one evening but that fell flat and I couldn't wait until the next time). Especially for friends who I knew were going to be supportive, because my friends are important and coming out is important and doing that just over text feels wrong. I'm lucky enough that everyone I know (family, friends, work) is accepting and supporting though.

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