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How do you come out to people?
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I was initially so worried about my coming out seeming like an attention seeking thing, or like I was expecting anyone other than myself to treat it as a big deal, that I waited for opportunities to slip it in so casually that it's like I don't even really care myself.
A couple of examples.
Friend: "Excited for your trip to the US?"
Me: "Mostly, yeah. Just a little apprehensive. It's a bit less trans friendly over there. You know I'm trans right?"
Friend: "What's new?"
Me: "Name. Pronouns. That's about it though."
I came out to one person by presenting aggressively feminine when we caught up for coffee one day. Ripped off the bandaid, got that obvious topic out of the way, that was it.
One person I knew I wasn't going to see for a while, but I really wanted to tell her, so I said something like "you might want to update my contact info in your phone, new name, sorry to be a pain". She was thrilled and asked me for a new photo to go with the new name.
Thats so bad-ass omg.