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Okay, how the fuck do I stop comparing myself to other women? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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Seriously. It's kinda hitting hard right now.

I guess I've always had body image issues; I think the whole going through male puberty thing does that. But they've really started getting bad this week.

I've kind of gotten past the whole comparing myself to AFAB people thing, because I want to have a realistic mindset about transitioning. I guess that's how I logic'd my way out of this feeling until now.

This is going to sound ridiculous, but I saw a trans woman earlier this week with just an amazing figure. Historically, I'm bisexual; So I have, like, feelings toward women, dude. But instead of any type of attraction, all I felt was a deep sense of never being able to make it to the point where she's gotten. Of never being beautiful.

Which is probably a load of baloney, but what's the difference between never being beautiful and never feeling beautiful?

I'm not in a state where I'm spiraling, but I do feel a little bit like a teenage girl and I'm frustrated that I'm not able to get past this. Obviously, I'm self-critical as hell. Ya'll have any experience/advice you can share?

EDIT: I'm so sorry, I should have prefaced with this. I'm married and I have a super supportive wife who makes me feel loved every day. I'm not like in a super dark place. But that doesn't stop the body image issues. I guess I don't necessarily trust her, or even other people, when they say I look good? This may just need hella therapy.

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[-] MotoAsh@piefed.social 2 points 4 days ago

Just don't let others define what it means, and that includes social 'norms' that we all know include some rather toxic expectations of 'healthy' to say the least.

The rest is up to you to not be an asshole to yourself, which I hope won't be too hard.

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