Do you wish you hadn't gotten officially diagnosed ? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 3 weeks ago by Talos@sopuli.xyz to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I’m in kind of a weird situation. I’m past my 40’s, and a close younger relative of mine got diagnosed with ADHD and I was talking with their psych and she said “uh it’s pretty clear you have this too., and you’ve been masking.”

So I was already seeing a psychiatrist, for anxiety, paying out of pocket because I didn’t want people in my profession or the health insurance company to know.

I told my own psych about the ADHD idea and she started prescribing stimulant meds to see if it helps.

It’s been amazing. My anxiety has practically melted away and just everything has gotten better for me.

Should I get diagnosed officially now?

On one hand I like the privacy.

On the other hand, my current psychiatrist might retire soon, and also if I have to change jobs, I think I’m required to list any pre-existing conditions.

I’d really like to hear other people’s experiences either way.

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[-] meco03211@lemmy.world 26 points 3 weeks ago

First off, how would anyone else ever find out? Second off, fuck anyone that judges you for it.

[-] Talos@sopuli.xyz 7 points 3 weeks ago

I guess I’m more concerned about the insurance side. I’ve spent a few years being paranoid about anxiety/depression because that can put you in a tough spot. ADHD does not feel stigmatized? Maybe that’s what I’m asking.

[-] QuirkyRaccoon1156@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I used to feel this way too but then it started affecting my life to a point where I couldn’t ignore it anymore. All of a sudden I only wanted to feel better and I didn’t care what the insurance company knew. It took me decades before I started taking meds. It changed my life. Just do it!! It’ll be ok!

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

It's stigmatized but if your country has any reasonable protections it shouldn't actually be a problem. If you're in doubt look them up and see what privacy and employment protections you have. Here in the US for example no employer has ever known I had adhd because I haven't told them, and even if they knew it's illegal to fire me for it without offering reasonable accommodations

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