How long should I know a person for before asking them out? (self.gaybros)

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I feel like too much time will end up with us being like brothers, and too little time will end up with the relationship being forced. I get a warm feeling every time my crush(?) calls me, so I may like him, but IDK. He said sure, maybe if we get to know each other more he'd date me, and I agreed. But how long into the relationship before I consider dating him?

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[-] beSyl@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 month ago

I never read any study on this. There might be some interval, say, you should wait somewhere between X and Y years/months before dating so that it maximizes relationship satisfaction.

To me, this feels entirely personal. If you like the person, and want to spend more time with them, why not spend more time together and see where it goes? If, as you spend more time together, you notice that it's not quite what you thought, then dating is a bad idea. If you still like him, and he likes you, go ahead!

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