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Check out this pecan pie i made | Trans Megathread for the Week 2025-12-01 to 2025-12-07 (hexbear.net)
submitted 9 months ago by to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net
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Link to the recipe, it's vegan im-vegan

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[–] 3 points 9 months ago (1 child)

spoilerThank you for your kindness 💜 You and bipp both have made me realize also that the alcohol is more than just returning to a nice (if distressing) moment in my life, it is also about erasing myself in the present. My mind feels free when I drink, but I then have to actively suppress those thoughts to keep from outing myself.

That self-doubt is always there for me. I did go out on a date with my partner in a dress almost two years ago, and it was one of the happiest days of my whole life. Then I was given the choice between my gender (which I was still figuring out) and my marriage. I had almost forgotten that day even happened until I saw that dress hidden away in the closet.

All that to say, there's a consistent feeling of alienation from my body and an equal fear in changing it. It's nice to know that moving past that fear, even though it's hard, is worth it 💜

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago

    spoilerThat dress in the closet seems like a particularly potent metaphor tbh, but that’s a terrible choice to have to face. I know our experiences aren’t 1:1, but I’m glad they can be helpful. The fear of changing your body, your life, is real as hell. It’s not an exaggeration when people say it’s hard and takes effort. But an experience shared by many on this sub is that the freedom gained from living the way you want to is worth it. I haven’t fully crossed that bridge yet, but we’re all at different stages of our journey. Again, I wish you so much luck and happiness in your self-discovery.

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