they aren't happy being raped. they see a guy being rich and hot as a mitigating his crime against them though. it's less 'rapey' to be raped by a rich hot guy. the scary rape is the one from the homeless drug addict. the former is an unfortunate circumstance, the latter is a heinous crime.

gender also doesn't matter. if an ugly female teacher rapes boys, it's 'gross'. if a hot blonde teacher does it it's 'what a lucky boy'.

the attractiveness of the criminal excuses their criminality, and often invites jealousy from onlookers that they were not victimized by the attractive person.