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Anon asks out a girl (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 9 months ago by [M] to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works
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[–] 3 points 9 months ago (8 children)

"I've been listening to your conversation" is not a good way to start. There are some exceptions, but even then you're starting on thin ice and have to ease into it.

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  • [–] 10 points 9 months ago (5 children)

    You shouldnt have to rehearse the perfect line that is impossible to be offended by just to talk to a stranger. We aren't robots. We dont always hit 100% of the time. We stumble and overextend. Expectations have gotten out of hand.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    you are allowed to stumble on the first line. and it may come off poorly. and if it does the other person is perfectly valid for not wanting to engage further. therefore if you want the other person to continue to engage, you should try not to come off poorly. this isn't some newfangled social phenomenon, it's how basic human interaction has worked for millennia

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (2 children)

    Tai Chi is all about not overextending.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (1 child)

    How does that apply here?

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago

    Like there is a practice to maintaining self-control and it works on all levels of the metaphor. Emotional, comfort level, social, whatever. Like I totally agree with you that total perfection is not the goal. But usually its good to demonstrate some composure.

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