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[–] 57 points 9 months ago (2 children)

And make your kids help with stuff regardless of gender. So many people grow up without basic life skills bc parents didn't involve them in activities regardless of the gender-coded-ness of those activities.

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  • [–] 45 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    My mom deliberately didn’t give us chores, because she grew up with a strict father who overwhelmed her with them.

    It backfired. I entered adulthood not even knowing how to use a broom. My first boss thought it was hilarious.

    Please, teach your kid these skills. However, don’t use them as punishment! That just makes them all the harder to do independently. I have an ex who associated cleaning with being punished and, as a result, never volunteered to do it. Every household chore fell on me.

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  • [–] 19 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    Please, teach your kid these skills. However, don’t use them as punishment!

    This is the line to walk. I've framed chores with my son as 'personal responsibility'.

    While at 12 he still struggles with the broom (I'll let him hand vac if that's what he prefers), he knows how to do his own laundry and cleans his bathroom himself often enough too. Chores are a part of living, do your part, I say. I grew up the eldest daughter of a home with no mother, everything fell to me. But I'm not going to ricochet that back and have my son be useless. It's a balance, to be helpful and responsible, this is the goal.

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  • [–] 14 points 9 months ago

    I have a friend who's wife refuses to let anyone in the house do chores because "Nobody does it the right way". Then gets completely overwhelmed with the amount of chores she has to do, and takes it out on my friend.

    She seems to completely miss the point of teaching people "the right way" or "practice".

    My kids are expected to do a chore a day, I have a list of available options with the only rule that most things can only be done once a week. I don't need the windows wiped down every single day, but Dishes and Laundry are always available. Even if they do something poorly, it is less than it was before and eventually they will get it done correctly.

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