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Is 16 and 19 really that bad?
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this post was submitted on 11 Oct 2025
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The difference in age between 22 and 25 is a lot less than between 19 and 16.
The same numerically. You’re not that obtuse, so is this a joke or are you a cringey debatelord?
Doubling down on feigned obtuseness, I see.
You can take the girl out of Reddit, but can’t take the Reddit out of the girl.
The age difference is about 20% smaller if you add 5 years. Development doesn't happen linearly, though, so the difference is even bigger.
A 10 year age gap is the same numerically at age 40-50 as it is at age 10-20 but they are clearly vastly different. There's an implicit power imbalance.
I gave a more extreme example to demonstrate that your "they are the same numerically" idea is flawed
Your critical thinking skills are somewhat lacking, I'm sorry to say
American states agreeing with you is not the strong point of logic you think it is.
Hope you have a lovely day :)
It's the same numerically, like you said.
Okay boomer.
Try moving that in the other direction though; I expect you'll eventually find pairing that makes you uncomfortable.
If it really was a 4-year-old dating a 7-year-old, I unironically feel like that would be more comfortable, probably because "dating" between little children is kind of silly in my mind.
Overall, my take would probably be "An adult who deliberately gets into a relationship with a minor (like the friend's ex) is kind of weird, while an established couple with a 3-year age gap (like Jessica/Vitor herself) is fine."