Gonna go out on a limb and say you're looking at this all wrong. The guy is sucking a girl's dick because he wants to bring a hot female pleasure while he watches. He probably doesn't care that much how it's done. Conversely, if a man has a pussy and he eats it; to me that's a vastly more gay act.

It's semantics, which means it doesn't matter. If a tomato had feelings, and referring to it as a vegetable hurt those feelings, then you'd be wrong to call it a vegetable, even indirectly.

Maybe come out of the closet; it would probably make you a much better person.

I don't care what you think.