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[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 year ago (3 children) not problematic I love the guy but I'm sure you could find an instance of him being problematic. Like his pen name, David Wong, is questionable given he's not asian. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) He stopped using it for that very reason, and took accountability. People are allowed to self correct, if he understands the problem with what he did and course corrected without being called out for it what would throwing more stones accomplish? Edit: Also, not a big enough deal to say you shouldn't read his books. Especially considering the narrative reason as to why he was using it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (2 children) I'm not throwing any stones, yo. I'm just pointing out you can't exactly say he's not problematic. I have a tolerance for problematicity so it's of no bother to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) If he was still using the pseudonym and making excuses to keep using it, sure, but I’m of the opinion that once someone understands what they have done wrong and took the opportunity to learn from it and do better there is no more wrong doing. There are, of course, exceptions to this, but a pseudonym that someone came up with in their 20’s and had the wherewithal later to say, “That’s not ok, I need to stop doing that” and stopped doing that for the right reasons is pretty far from a reason to call them problematic, especially when it wasn’t a decision made under any form of duress and he has made no attempt at defending his choice to have used that pseudonym and stated it was not ok for him to have used that pseudonym. Edit: Also, it was used in a narrative context of the main character trying to throw off his identity, if They’re looking for David Wong then they wouldn't assume it’s the burnt out white dude. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (1 child) I've heard him on a bunch of podcasts and keep meaning to try his books. I've got a copy of this book is full of spiders, I'll have to give it a go. Where's a good place to start with his stuff? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (1 child) John Dies At The End was his first book and where I started. It’s also neat to watch his writing style evolve. I’d say John Dies or Futuristic Violence and Fancy Suits, those are the first books for his two ongoing series, if you’re feeling more into horror or sci-fi. What podcasts? Are you a Dog Zone 9000 fan by chance? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Great, cheers I'll try John dies at the end. I've heard him as a frequent guest on gamefully unemployed and small beans podcasts. They're focused on movies, he's full of interesting takes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago Also a big fan of all of those guys, and pretty much all of the old Cracked crew and their podcasts, he pops in on all of them. He also regularly does a podcast with the Dog Zone guys called Bigfeets where they talk about every episode of Mountain Monsters and it is one of my favorite things that has ever happened. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 child) The word problematic is kind of weasely used this way. The pen name had an in-universe rationale that made sense and was funny because of the incongruity. Merely alluding to the existence of ethnicity isn't "problematic" in itself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) I'm not the on who brought the word problematic into this conversation. But I bet you if I put a poll on, say, tumblr, asking about different potentially problematic things, "pretending to be asian" would score highly on the problematic scale. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (2 children) He wasn't pretending to be asian, though, the book John Dies at The End makes that very clear and gives a silly in universe reason for the now dead pseudonym. It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Just a few comments up you said He stopped using it for that very reason, and took accountability. People are allowed to self correct, if he understands the problem with what he did and course corrected Now that you were pushed on it a bit you're saying It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. Something about this interaction feels really dishonest. Was there a problem he needed to take accountability for or not? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 child) Two things can be true. Also. Read into the guy if you’re so fucking concerned and I’m so fucking dishonest. Cunts like you are why I'm two seconds away from being done with this stupid site. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) If you're just here to throw a tantrum and call people mean names I don't think you will be missed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (2 children) Cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Leaving this site aside, its good for everyone, both you and I, to take breaks and focus on our mental when we can. Whatever you're doing here, I don't think the replies you'd tend to get behaving like this are worth the mental energy it seems to be costing you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent [+] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -3 points 1 year ago (1 child) Then I will rephrase -- asking tumblr "is it problematic for a white person to go by an obviously Asian name as a pseudonym," I feel that even phrased that way they would still say "yes." I don't really use the word 'problematic' in the social justice sense myself because it's incredibly vague, but if you're going to specifically use the word problematic and claim that Jason Pargin isn't, then I feel that it's a pretty cut-and-dry "yes that was 'problematic'" scenario. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent [–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 child) Stephen King is Scots-Irish and he used the pen name Richard Bachman despite not being German. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (1 child) there is a long and respected history of mocking germans. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Mocking Germans is okay but using a traditionally Chinese name isn't? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago Yes, that aligns with my understanding of the word problematic. permalink fedilink source parent [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago (1 child) Why is that questionable? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Stolen Valor permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Stolen valor refers to the act of falsely claiming military service or awards that one did not earn, often to gain respect, money, or other benefits. ? How does being or not being Asian plays into this? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (1 child) "Stolen valor" can be used in a humorous way beyond its original meaning as someone pretending to be a veteran. For example, there's a funny Youtube video about a tradesperson encountering a hipster wearing Carhartt workwear and using the phrase "stolen valor" to describe him. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago (1 child) Ok, so it was a joke? English is not my first language so I'm asking for clarification not trying to be snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 child) I like to think my comment qualifies as clarification. I'm not trying to be snarky either. OK, maybe a little snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What? :D I'm asking if you are implying that the person replying "stolen valor" to my question was making a joke or if I don't understand something obvious. Why is it stolen valor to have an Asian pen name? As I see it, you don't want people to know that it is you, so it is another layer of obfuscation. Which is good if your goal is to be undercover. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago Being asian is awesome so pretending to be asian is stolen valor. Also the idea that you're awesome just because you're asian is ridiculous so the joke works on many levels. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) He stopped using it for that very reason, and took accountability. People are allowed to self correct, if he understands the problem with what he did and course corrected without being called out for it what would throwing more stones accomplish? Edit: Also, not a big enough deal to say you shouldn't read his books. Especially considering the narrative reason as to why he was using it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (2 children) I'm not throwing any stones, yo. I'm just pointing out you can't exactly say he's not problematic. I have a tolerance for problematicity so it's of no bother to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) If he was still using the pseudonym and making excuses to keep using it, sure, but I’m of the opinion that once someone understands what they have done wrong and took the opportunity to learn from it and do better there is no more wrong doing. There are, of course, exceptions to this, but a pseudonym that someone came up with in their 20’s and had the wherewithal later to say, “That’s not ok, I need to stop doing that” and stopped doing that for the right reasons is pretty far from a reason to call them problematic, especially when it wasn’t a decision made under any form of duress and he has made no attempt at defending his choice to have used that pseudonym and stated it was not ok for him to have used that pseudonym. Edit: Also, it was used in a narrative context of the main character trying to throw off his identity, if They’re looking for David Wong then they wouldn't assume it’s the burnt out white dude. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (1 child) I've heard him on a bunch of podcasts and keep meaning to try his books. I've got a copy of this book is full of spiders, I'll have to give it a go. Where's a good place to start with his stuff? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (1 child) John Dies At The End was his first book and where I started. It’s also neat to watch his writing style evolve. I’d say John Dies or Futuristic Violence and Fancy Suits, those are the first books for his two ongoing series, if you’re feeling more into horror or sci-fi. What podcasts? Are you a Dog Zone 9000 fan by chance? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Great, cheers I'll try John dies at the end. I've heard him as a frequent guest on gamefully unemployed and small beans podcasts. They're focused on movies, he's full of interesting takes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago Also a big fan of all of those guys, and pretty much all of the old Cracked crew and their podcasts, he pops in on all of them. He also regularly does a podcast with the Dog Zone guys called Bigfeets where they talk about every episode of Mountain Monsters and it is one of my favorite things that has ever happened. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 child) The word problematic is kind of weasely used this way. The pen name had an in-universe rationale that made sense and was funny because of the incongruity. Merely alluding to the existence of ethnicity isn't "problematic" in itself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) I'm not the on who brought the word problematic into this conversation. But I bet you if I put a poll on, say, tumblr, asking about different potentially problematic things, "pretending to be asian" would score highly on the problematic scale. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (2 children) He wasn't pretending to be asian, though, the book John Dies at The End makes that very clear and gives a silly in universe reason for the now dead pseudonym. It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Just a few comments up you said He stopped using it for that very reason, and took accountability. People are allowed to self correct, if he understands the problem with what he did and course corrected Now that you were pushed on it a bit you're saying It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. Something about this interaction feels really dishonest. Was there a problem he needed to take accountability for or not? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 child) Two things can be true. Also. Read into the guy if you’re so fucking concerned and I’m so fucking dishonest. Cunts like you are why I'm two seconds away from being done with this stupid site. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) If you're just here to throw a tantrum and call people mean names I don't think you will be missed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (2 children) Cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Leaving this site aside, its good for everyone, both you and I, to take breaks and focus on our mental when we can. Whatever you're doing here, I don't think the replies you'd tend to get behaving like this are worth the mental energy it seems to be costing you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent [+] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -3 points 1 year ago (1 child) Then I will rephrase -- asking tumblr "is it problematic for a white person to go by an obviously Asian name as a pseudonym," I feel that even phrased that way they would still say "yes." I don't really use the word 'problematic' in the social justice sense myself because it's incredibly vague, but if you're going to specifically use the word problematic and claim that Jason Pargin isn't, then I feel that it's a pretty cut-and-dry "yes that was 'problematic'" scenario. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (2 children) I'm not throwing any stones, yo. I'm just pointing out you can't exactly say he's not problematic. I have a tolerance for problematicity so it's of no bother to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) If he was still using the pseudonym and making excuses to keep using it, sure, but I’m of the opinion that once someone understands what they have done wrong and took the opportunity to learn from it and do better there is no more wrong doing. There are, of course, exceptions to this, but a pseudonym that someone came up with in their 20’s and had the wherewithal later to say, “That’s not ok, I need to stop doing that” and stopped doing that for the right reasons is pretty far from a reason to call them problematic, especially when it wasn’t a decision made under any form of duress and he has made no attempt at defending his choice to have used that pseudonym and stated it was not ok for him to have used that pseudonym. Edit: Also, it was used in a narrative context of the main character trying to throw off his identity, if They’re looking for David Wong then they wouldn't assume it’s the burnt out white dude. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (1 child) I've heard him on a bunch of podcasts and keep meaning to try his books. I've got a copy of this book is full of spiders, I'll have to give it a go. Where's a good place to start with his stuff? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (1 child) John Dies At The End was his first book and where I started. It’s also neat to watch his writing style evolve. I’d say John Dies or Futuristic Violence and Fancy Suits, those are the first books for his two ongoing series, if you’re feeling more into horror or sci-fi. What podcasts? Are you a Dog Zone 9000 fan by chance? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Great, cheers I'll try John dies at the end. I've heard him as a frequent guest on gamefully unemployed and small beans podcasts. They're focused on movies, he's full of interesting takes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago Also a big fan of all of those guys, and pretty much all of the old Cracked crew and their podcasts, he pops in on all of them. He also regularly does a podcast with the Dog Zone guys called Bigfeets where they talk about every episode of Mountain Monsters and it is one of my favorite things that has ever happened. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 child) The word problematic is kind of weasely used this way. The pen name had an in-universe rationale that made sense and was funny because of the incongruity. Merely alluding to the existence of ethnicity isn't "problematic" in itself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) I'm not the on who brought the word problematic into this conversation. But I bet you if I put a poll on, say, tumblr, asking about different potentially problematic things, "pretending to be asian" would score highly on the problematic scale. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (2 children) He wasn't pretending to be asian, though, the book John Dies at The End makes that very clear and gives a silly in universe reason for the now dead pseudonym. It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Just a few comments up you said He stopped using it for that very reason, and took accountability. People are allowed to self correct, if he understands the problem with what he did and course corrected Now that you were pushed on it a bit you're saying It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. Something about this interaction feels really dishonest. Was there a problem he needed to take accountability for or not? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 child) Two things can be true. Also. Read into the guy if you’re so fucking concerned and I’m so fucking dishonest. Cunts like you are why I'm two seconds away from being done with this stupid site. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) If you're just here to throw a tantrum and call people mean names I don't think you will be missed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (2 children) Cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Leaving this site aside, its good for everyone, both you and I, to take breaks and focus on our mental when we can. Whatever you're doing here, I don't think the replies you'd tend to get behaving like this are worth the mental energy it seems to be costing you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent [+] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -3 points 1 year ago (1 child) Then I will rephrase -- asking tumblr "is it problematic for a white person to go by an obviously Asian name as a pseudonym," I feel that even phrased that way they would still say "yes." I don't really use the word 'problematic' in the social justice sense myself because it's incredibly vague, but if you're going to specifically use the word problematic and claim that Jason Pargin isn't, then I feel that it's a pretty cut-and-dry "yes that was 'problematic'" scenario. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) If he was still using the pseudonym and making excuses to keep using it, sure, but I’m of the opinion that once someone understands what they have done wrong and took the opportunity to learn from it and do better there is no more wrong doing. There are, of course, exceptions to this, but a pseudonym that someone came up with in their 20’s and had the wherewithal later to say, “That’s not ok, I need to stop doing that” and stopped doing that for the right reasons is pretty far from a reason to call them problematic, especially when it wasn’t a decision made under any form of duress and he has made no attempt at defending his choice to have used that pseudonym and stated it was not ok for him to have used that pseudonym. Edit: Also, it was used in a narrative context of the main character trying to throw off his identity, if They’re looking for David Wong then they wouldn't assume it’s the burnt out white dude. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (1 child) I've heard him on a bunch of podcasts and keep meaning to try his books. I've got a copy of this book is full of spiders, I'll have to give it a go. Where's a good place to start with his stuff? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (1 child) John Dies At The End was his first book and where I started. It’s also neat to watch his writing style evolve. I’d say John Dies or Futuristic Violence and Fancy Suits, those are the first books for his two ongoing series, if you’re feeling more into horror or sci-fi. What podcasts? Are you a Dog Zone 9000 fan by chance? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Great, cheers I'll try John dies at the end. I've heard him as a frequent guest on gamefully unemployed and small beans podcasts. They're focused on movies, he's full of interesting takes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago Also a big fan of all of those guys, and pretty much all of the old Cracked crew and their podcasts, he pops in on all of them. He also regularly does a podcast with the Dog Zone guys called Bigfeets where they talk about every episode of Mountain Monsters and it is one of my favorite things that has ever happened. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (1 child) I've heard him on a bunch of podcasts and keep meaning to try his books. I've got a copy of this book is full of spiders, I'll have to give it a go. Where's a good place to start with his stuff? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (1 child) John Dies At The End was his first book and where I started. It’s also neat to watch his writing style evolve. I’d say John Dies or Futuristic Violence and Fancy Suits, those are the first books for his two ongoing series, if you’re feeling more into horror or sci-fi. What podcasts? Are you a Dog Zone 9000 fan by chance? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Great, cheers I'll try John dies at the end. I've heard him as a frequent guest on gamefully unemployed and small beans podcasts. They're focused on movies, he's full of interesting takes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago Also a big fan of all of those guys, and pretty much all of the old Cracked crew and their podcasts, he pops in on all of them. He also regularly does a podcast with the Dog Zone guys called Bigfeets where they talk about every episode of Mountain Monsters and it is one of my favorite things that has ever happened. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (1 child) John Dies At The End was his first book and where I started. It’s also neat to watch his writing style evolve. I’d say John Dies or Futuristic Violence and Fancy Suits, those are the first books for his two ongoing series, if you’re feeling more into horror or sci-fi. What podcasts? Are you a Dog Zone 9000 fan by chance? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Great, cheers I'll try John dies at the end. I've heard him as a frequent guest on gamefully unemployed and small beans podcasts. They're focused on movies, he's full of interesting takes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago Also a big fan of all of those guys, and pretty much all of the old Cracked crew and their podcasts, he pops in on all of them. He also regularly does a podcast with the Dog Zone guys called Bigfeets where they talk about every episode of Mountain Monsters and it is one of my favorite things that has ever happened. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Great, cheers I'll try John dies at the end. I've heard him as a frequent guest on gamefully unemployed and small beans podcasts. They're focused on movies, he's full of interesting takes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago Also a big fan of all of those guys, and pretty much all of the old Cracked crew and their podcasts, he pops in on all of them. He also regularly does a podcast with the Dog Zone guys called Bigfeets where they talk about every episode of Mountain Monsters and it is one of my favorite things that has ever happened. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago Also a big fan of all of those guys, and pretty much all of the old Cracked crew and their podcasts, he pops in on all of them. He also regularly does a podcast with the Dog Zone guys called Bigfeets where they talk about every episode of Mountain Monsters and it is one of my favorite things that has ever happened. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 child) The word problematic is kind of weasely used this way. The pen name had an in-universe rationale that made sense and was funny because of the incongruity. Merely alluding to the existence of ethnicity isn't "problematic" in itself. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) I'm not the on who brought the word problematic into this conversation. But I bet you if I put a poll on, say, tumblr, asking about different potentially problematic things, "pretending to be asian" would score highly on the problematic scale. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (2 children) He wasn't pretending to be asian, though, the book John Dies at The End makes that very clear and gives a silly in universe reason for the now dead pseudonym. It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Just a few comments up you said He stopped using it for that very reason, and took accountability. People are allowed to self correct, if he understands the problem with what he did and course corrected Now that you were pushed on it a bit you're saying It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. Something about this interaction feels really dishonest. Was there a problem he needed to take accountability for or not? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 child) Two things can be true. Also. Read into the guy if you’re so fucking concerned and I’m so fucking dishonest. Cunts like you are why I'm two seconds away from being done with this stupid site. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) If you're just here to throw a tantrum and call people mean names I don't think you will be missed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (2 children) Cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Leaving this site aside, its good for everyone, both you and I, to take breaks and focus on our mental when we can. Whatever you're doing here, I don't think the replies you'd tend to get behaving like this are worth the mental energy it seems to be costing you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent [+] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -3 points 1 year ago (1 child) Then I will rephrase -- asking tumblr "is it problematic for a white person to go by an obviously Asian name as a pseudonym," I feel that even phrased that way they would still say "yes." I don't really use the word 'problematic' in the social justice sense myself because it's incredibly vague, but if you're going to specifically use the word problematic and claim that Jason Pargin isn't, then I feel that it's a pretty cut-and-dry "yes that was 'problematic'" scenario. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) I'm not the on who brought the word problematic into this conversation. But I bet you if I put a poll on, say, tumblr, asking about different potentially problematic things, "pretending to be asian" would score highly on the problematic scale. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (2 children) He wasn't pretending to be asian, though, the book John Dies at The End makes that very clear and gives a silly in universe reason for the now dead pseudonym. It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Just a few comments up you said He stopped using it for that very reason, and took accountability. People are allowed to self correct, if he understands the problem with what he did and course corrected Now that you were pushed on it a bit you're saying It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. Something about this interaction feels really dishonest. Was there a problem he needed to take accountability for or not? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 child) Two things can be true. Also. Read into the guy if you’re so fucking concerned and I’m so fucking dishonest. Cunts like you are why I'm two seconds away from being done with this stupid site. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) If you're just here to throw a tantrum and call people mean names I don't think you will be missed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (2 children) Cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Leaving this site aside, its good for everyone, both you and I, to take breaks and focus on our mental when we can. Whatever you're doing here, I don't think the replies you'd tend to get behaving like this are worth the mental energy it seems to be costing you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent [+] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -3 points 1 year ago (1 child) Then I will rephrase -- asking tumblr "is it problematic for a white person to go by an obviously Asian name as a pseudonym," I feel that even phrased that way they would still say "yes." I don't really use the word 'problematic' in the social justice sense myself because it's incredibly vague, but if you're going to specifically use the word problematic and claim that Jason Pargin isn't, then I feel that it's a pretty cut-and-dry "yes that was 'problematic'" scenario. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (2 children) He wasn't pretending to be asian, though, the book John Dies at The End makes that very clear and gives a silly in universe reason for the now dead pseudonym. It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Just a few comments up you said He stopped using it for that very reason, and took accountability. People are allowed to self correct, if he understands the problem with what he did and course corrected Now that you were pushed on it a bit you're saying It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. Something about this interaction feels really dishonest. Was there a problem he needed to take accountability for or not? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 child) Two things can be true. Also. Read into the guy if you’re so fucking concerned and I’m so fucking dishonest. Cunts like you are why I'm two seconds away from being done with this stupid site. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) If you're just here to throw a tantrum and call people mean names I don't think you will be missed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (2 children) Cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Leaving this site aside, its good for everyone, both you and I, to take breaks and focus on our mental when we can. Whatever you're doing here, I don't think the replies you'd tend to get behaving like this are worth the mental energy it seems to be costing you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent [+] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -3 points 1 year ago (1 child) Then I will rephrase -- asking tumblr "is it problematic for a white person to go by an obviously Asian name as a pseudonym," I feel that even phrased that way they would still say "yes." I don't really use the word 'problematic' in the social justice sense myself because it's incredibly vague, but if you're going to specifically use the word problematic and claim that Jason Pargin isn't, then I feel that it's a pretty cut-and-dry "yes that was 'problematic'" scenario. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Just a few comments up you said He stopped using it for that very reason, and took accountability. People are allowed to self correct, if he understands the problem with what he did and course corrected Now that you were pushed on it a bit you're saying It really was not problematic, even at the time of it being used. Something about this interaction feels really dishonest. Was there a problem he needed to take accountability for or not? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 child) Two things can be true. Also. Read into the guy if you’re so fucking concerned and I’m so fucking dishonest. Cunts like you are why I'm two seconds away from being done with this stupid site. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) If you're just here to throw a tantrum and call people mean names I don't think you will be missed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (2 children) Cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Leaving this site aside, its good for everyone, both you and I, to take breaks and focus on our mental when we can. Whatever you're doing here, I don't think the replies you'd tend to get behaving like this are worth the mental energy it seems to be costing you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent [+] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 child) Two things can be true. Also. Read into the guy if you’re so fucking concerned and I’m so fucking dishonest. Cunts like you are why I'm two seconds away from being done with this stupid site. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) If you're just here to throw a tantrum and call people mean names I don't think you will be missed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (2 children) Cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Leaving this site aside, its good for everyone, both you and I, to take breaks and focus on our mental when we can. Whatever you're doing here, I don't think the replies you'd tend to get behaving like this are worth the mental energy it seems to be costing you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent [+] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) If you're just here to throw a tantrum and call people mean names I don't think you will be missed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (2 children) Cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Leaving this site aside, its good for everyone, both you and I, to take breaks and focus on our mental when we can. Whatever you're doing here, I don't think the replies you'd tend to get behaving like this are worth the mental energy it seems to be costing you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent [+] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (2 children) Cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Leaving this site aside, its good for everyone, both you and I, to take breaks and focus on our mental when we can. Whatever you're doing here, I don't think the replies you'd tend to get behaving like this are worth the mental energy it seems to be costing you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent [+] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Leaving this site aside, its good for everyone, both you and I, to take breaks and focus on our mental when we can. Whatever you're doing here, I don't think the replies you'd tend to get behaving like this are worth the mental energy it seems to be costing you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer who doesn't rape people or pursue political and social erasure of a demographic, maybe take your own advice. What did your other response say before you deleted it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Considering you started this conversation blatantly calling me dishonest for recommending a writer You totally misread that. Please don't blame me for assumptions that only exist in your head. I will tell you what I mean if you ask. I called you dishonest for saying he did something "problematic" but took accountability for it to immediately saying he didn't do anything "problematic". Either one is true or the other and since it's your recommendation I was asking you to clarify. You're obviously a big fan of this author I've never heard of and are taking this very personally. What did your other response say before you deleted it? Lmfao, seriously you are letting this bother you so much! Just step away. I accidentally hit some random buttons when I was trying to read your reply and it somehow posted a blank string, if that helps your anxiety. Have a nice day, enjoy the weather! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) You totally misread that. I called you dishonest So, which one is it? feels pretty dishonest to me. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Both. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) So, two things can be true? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What are you doing? The time to have a polite conversation about this was before you called me a "Cunt". You've acted way too immature and now are trying to resurrect a dead argument. Cool yourself down, get some fresh air, and move on. Think of that image you keep posting of the guy going "Jesus Fucking Christ" and leaving the room. It's powerful because he actually leaves the room. He doesn't need the last word or to keep engaging with the stuff, he just walks away. You have to learn when to do that for your own sanity and it's been long past that point don't you think? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child) Way to be a cunt, cunt. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Being real for a sec, are you doing okay with everything? This can't have been very fun for you to engage with so it's starting to seem like you just want someone to talk to. I try to keep in mind that there are real humans beyond the words we're typing and these peoples have lives and stress and a bunch of shit we could never see. Social media, especially karma systems, are a quick way to feel like we're being social, but the upvote/downvote system psychologically puts us in constant competition, as though conversations can have a clear winner and loser. I'm not going to call you names back, I've played that game, it doesn't feel very good. Any hobbies you're currently excited about? I have a couple things I'm doing I could talk about too? And if you really are just having fun saying "Cunt." over and over that's fine too, I'm just confused what you're getting out of it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Maybe write another essay about how I’m the one not handling this very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Lol if we have any sense of self awareness it should be abundantly clear how embarrassing it is for both of us that we're still doing this. If you can't admit that then yeah I'd say you're not handling it very well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] WhatsTheHoldup@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml -3 points 1 year ago (1 child) Then I will rephrase -- asking tumblr "is it problematic for a white person to go by an obviously Asian name as a pseudonym," I feel that even phrased that way they would still say "yes." I don't really use the word 'problematic' in the social justice sense myself because it's incredibly vague, but if you're going to specifically use the word problematic and claim that Jason Pargin isn't, then I feel that it's a pretty cut-and-dry "yes that was 'problematic'" scenario. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 child) Stephen King is Scots-Irish and he used the pen name Richard Bachman despite not being German. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (1 child) there is a long and respected history of mocking germans. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Mocking Germans is okay but using a traditionally Chinese name isn't? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago Yes, that aligns with my understanding of the word problematic. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (1 child) there is a long and respected history of mocking germans. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Mocking Germans is okay but using a traditionally Chinese name isn't? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago Yes, that aligns with my understanding of the word problematic. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Regrettable_incident@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) Mocking Germans is okay but using a traditionally Chinese name isn't? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago Yes, that aligns with my understanding of the word problematic. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 1 point 1 year ago Yes, that aligns with my understanding of the word problematic. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago (1 child) Why is that questionable? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Stolen Valor permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Stolen valor refers to the act of falsely claiming military service or awards that one did not earn, often to gain respect, money, or other benefits. ? How does being or not being Asian plays into this? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (1 child) "Stolen valor" can be used in a humorous way beyond its original meaning as someone pretending to be a veteran. For example, there's a funny Youtube video about a tradesperson encountering a hipster wearing Carhartt workwear and using the phrase "stolen valor" to describe him. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago (1 child) Ok, so it was a joke? English is not my first language so I'm asking for clarification not trying to be snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 child) I like to think my comment qualifies as clarification. I'm not trying to be snarky either. OK, maybe a little snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What? :D I'm asking if you are implying that the person replying "stolen valor" to my question was making a joke or if I don't understand something obvious. Why is it stolen valor to have an Asian pen name? As I see it, you don't want people to know that it is you, so it is another layer of obfuscation. Which is good if your goal is to be undercover. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago Being asian is awesome so pretending to be asian is stolen valor. Also the idea that you're awesome just because you're asian is ridiculous so the joke works on many levels. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Stolen Valor permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Stolen valor refers to the act of falsely claiming military service or awards that one did not earn, often to gain respect, money, or other benefits. ? How does being or not being Asian plays into this? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (1 child) "Stolen valor" can be used in a humorous way beyond its original meaning as someone pretending to be a veteran. For example, there's a funny Youtube video about a tradesperson encountering a hipster wearing Carhartt workwear and using the phrase "stolen valor" to describe him. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago (1 child) Ok, so it was a joke? English is not my first language so I'm asking for clarification not trying to be snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 child) I like to think my comment qualifies as clarification. I'm not trying to be snarky either. OK, maybe a little snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What? :D I'm asking if you are implying that the person replying "stolen valor" to my question was making a joke or if I don't understand something obvious. Why is it stolen valor to have an Asian pen name? As I see it, you don't want people to know that it is you, so it is another layer of obfuscation. Which is good if your goal is to be undercover. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago Being asian is awesome so pretending to be asian is stolen valor. Also the idea that you're awesome just because you're asian is ridiculous so the joke works on many levels. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago (1 child) Stolen valor refers to the act of falsely claiming military service or awards that one did not earn, often to gain respect, money, or other benefits. ? How does being or not being Asian plays into this? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (1 child) "Stolen valor" can be used in a humorous way beyond its original meaning as someone pretending to be a veteran. For example, there's a funny Youtube video about a tradesperson encountering a hipster wearing Carhartt workwear and using the phrase "stolen valor" to describe him. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago (1 child) Ok, so it was a joke? English is not my first language so I'm asking for clarification not trying to be snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 child) I like to think my comment qualifies as clarification. I'm not trying to be snarky either. OK, maybe a little snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What? :D I'm asking if you are implying that the person replying "stolen valor" to my question was making a joke or if I don't understand something obvious. Why is it stolen valor to have an Asian pen name? As I see it, you don't want people to know that it is you, so it is another layer of obfuscation. Which is good if your goal is to be undercover. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago Being asian is awesome so pretending to be asian is stolen valor. Also the idea that you're awesome just because you're asian is ridiculous so the joke works on many levels. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (1 child) "Stolen valor" can be used in a humorous way beyond its original meaning as someone pretending to be a veteran. For example, there's a funny Youtube video about a tradesperson encountering a hipster wearing Carhartt workwear and using the phrase "stolen valor" to describe him. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago (1 child) Ok, so it was a joke? English is not my first language so I'm asking for clarification not trying to be snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 child) I like to think my comment qualifies as clarification. I'm not trying to be snarky either. OK, maybe a little snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What? :D I'm asking if you are implying that the person replying "stolen valor" to my question was making a joke or if I don't understand something obvious. Why is it stolen valor to have an Asian pen name? As I see it, you don't want people to know that it is you, so it is another layer of obfuscation. Which is good if your goal is to be undercover. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago Being asian is awesome so pretending to be asian is stolen valor. Also the idea that you're awesome just because you're asian is ridiculous so the joke works on many levels. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago (1 child) Ok, so it was a joke? English is not my first language so I'm asking for clarification not trying to be snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 child) I like to think my comment qualifies as clarification. I'm not trying to be snarky either. OK, maybe a little snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What? :D I'm asking if you are implying that the person replying "stolen valor" to my question was making a joke or if I don't understand something obvious. Why is it stolen valor to have an Asian pen name? As I see it, you don't want people to know that it is you, so it is another layer of obfuscation. Which is good if your goal is to be undercover. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago Being asian is awesome so pretending to be asian is stolen valor. Also the idea that you're awesome just because you're asian is ridiculous so the joke works on many levels. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 child) I like to think my comment qualifies as clarification. I'm not trying to be snarky either. OK, maybe a little snarky. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What? :D I'm asking if you are implying that the person replying "stolen valor" to my question was making a joke or if I don't understand something obvious. Why is it stolen valor to have an Asian pen name? As I see it, you don't want people to know that it is you, so it is another layer of obfuscation. Which is good if your goal is to be undercover. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago Being asian is awesome so pretending to be asian is stolen valor. Also the idea that you're awesome just because you're asian is ridiculous so the joke works on many levels. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 year ago (1 child) What? :D I'm asking if you are implying that the person replying "stolen valor" to my question was making a joke or if I don't understand something obvious. Why is it stolen valor to have an Asian pen name? As I see it, you don't want people to know that it is you, so it is another layer of obfuscation. Which is good if your goal is to be undercover. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago Being asian is awesome so pretending to be asian is stolen valor. Also the idea that you're awesome just because you're asian is ridiculous so the joke works on many levels. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] kandoh@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago Being asian is awesome so pretending to be asian is stolen valor. Also the idea that you're awesome just because you're asian is ridiculous so the joke works on many levels. permalink fedilink source parent