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submitted 18 hours ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

When I was a kid, I was punished excessively. My diagnosis occurred when I was 25. In the 1980s, I got paddled every day at school and was punished constantly. It made me feel rejected, leading to rejection sensitivity dysphoria. By the time I was 9, I decided life was not worth living and have not changed my mind at 45 years old. I would never have a child to suffer the way I did. I still feel like nobody wants me around. My mental health issues have severely impacted my quality of life. I'm just now figuring out that this might be why I have never felt my clock tick, or thought for even a second of my life that I wanted kids.

Has this happened to anyone else? I wonder how many in this forum might have decided against parenthood due to ADHD effects without realizing it.

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[-] [email protected] 14 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

Yeah. They're great... but it feels like we're doing way more work than most parents. I feel that school bullying has had a 90% reduction since I was a kid and that's with my kids going to the same school I did.

The doctors told my wife that her biological clock was ticking way faster than most, so I had 3 kids by age 30. The doctors were a bit reluctant to give me the snip at 31 before they realised I was 3 kids deep already.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 17 hours ago

Congrats and good luck!

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