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WOMEN ONLY COMMUNITY MEN PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT*
It's something I've seen thrown at women a fair bit. Feminazi, stripping men's rights, feminism has gone too far blah blah. Has anyone ever accused you of it? And any women said this to you?
That used to be me. I very nearly fell down the blackpill incel hole, long before those were terms, back when friendzone memes were all the rage. Two things really stopped that--one was that I was self aware and recognized it was a me problem, not a world problem, and the second was more or less a friend turning me into a brony (it was new at the time and was positivity that I really needed). In the end, learning to think critically and not feast on a diet of easy hate is the reason I'm not a complete dumpster fire excuse for a human being. Hate and anger are junk food for the mind, and while there's nothing wrong with hating something or being angry, it's easy to let them rule you and turn you into an angry, hateful person.
Don't know a lot of woman incels these days (though I'm aware the community was founded by a woman). Curious about what lead you to inceldom.
Was male at the time, I'm still transitioning. I was almost a complete social outcast, spending all my time reading and on the internet. It's easy to hate, when you feel so hated. So isolated. It seemed like everyone was dating someone, like you were worth less than others if you weren't. Friend zone memes were trendy at the time, they made it out like it was women's fault you were alone. Luckily, I had the self awareness to keep in mind it's not like I ever tried. How could I blame someone for a nonexistent rejection? Still horribly fucked up socially resenting and hating people but I never developed the entitlement and hatred of women for (the delusion) of it being their fault I was aingle and isolated that really makes an incel an incel. I got more socially well adjusted and college was so much better but middle school and high school were hell. I still... have issues when it comes to dating and intimacy, truthfully I don't think it's ever something I'm going to be ok with. But, it's something I'm not ok with, not something that I'm incapable of, which might seem like a pointless distinction but makes a world of difference.