This is really messed up considering that many instances out there aren't affiliated with Lemmy.ml and might even defed from them.

Also before someone comes in here whining that they shouldn't use lemmy, fuck off. This is Open-Source software. No one has any obligation to affiliate with or even support the devs by using it. You should also realize that "Migrating to new software" means starting a brand new instance, as the DB and User registrations are not compatible.