I usually have low expectations when meeting up with friends. I shouldn't have any at all. But I only have recently realised that I tell myself that I'm not going to feel connected to people when I meet them, because that's been the majority of my experiences. However, late night car chats are something else. I dropped a friend home and we chatted in the car for like an hour, and it was really lovely. More car yapping sessions please.

As long as we are talking shit, doing some sort of mundane task together, and laughing, I think that's my deep connection. A psych told me once that close relationships aren't always formed by talking, and you don't always need to have something to say. There is great joy in being present and enjoying the company of others. That's what being human is all about I think.