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This might cause a struggle but: Calling people prudes for not wanting to sexualise themselves is bad (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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"We need to sex up your wardrobe. What do you mean you're not comfortable wearing that? Oh honey, don't be such a prude, all the girls are doing it and you want to be successful don't you? No one's going to watch someone that dresses like their grandma."

I get sick and tired of so called leftists equating exploitation to sexual liberation.

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 2 days ago (36 children)

This might cause a struggle

I hope not, it's an entirely reasonable take.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (35 children)

I made this post because of this recent post https://hexbear.net/post/4904490 which complains about how "prudish" and "puritan" we are.

I usually don't do this but we have been getting an influx of people obsessing over the "loneliness epidemic" stuff and it's starting to bother me.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 days ago (20 children)

oh god no. that post sucks ass.

rant, CW: talking about porn and kink, specifically choking

i've noticed this rhetoric, that porn addiction isn't a thing, multiple times here lately. i don't quite get it, but it seems like they're trying to excuse porn consumption as, likee something that doesn't impact anything? which seems very incorrect to me. as someone in bdsm spaces (insert joke about ace ppl being rly into kink here), we've noticed an increase in hardcore acts being normalized in vanilla spaces. this coincides with them being normalized more in porn. the most obvious one is choking. breath play is really fucking dangerous and requires clear consent, but since it's normalized in porn (where consent can HOPEFULLY be discussed off camera), it becomes normalized in vanilla, where consent rules are NOT really heavily used.

and you can argue this is an issue with most cishet ppl, "normal sexually liberated people" as said in the post, not understanding consent, but acting like porn had no influence on this trend is craaazy. and acting like people are evangelical freaks for being concerned about the normalization of hardcore sexual acts through porn makes me s upset

also acting like it's not a real addiction people deal with is super invalidating. obviously anything can be addictive.

i really hope this doesn't become a trend, since this is the only like, site i can use that isn't overly horny and exploitative all the fucking time

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago

Re: choking.

The thing I say is; would you want someone to ask your consent to put a plastic bag over your head and wrap tape around it?

Because as crazy is it sound that is a far safer breath play than choking (suffocation is different to strangulation) and you'd still want to have pre-planned discussion and active consent.

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