Having to bond with my daughter's much older boyfriend as a dad is tough (lemm.ee)

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My daughter is ~2 months shy of being 21. Her boyfriend is 46. For reference, I'm 45. She introduced him to my wife and me about half a year ago. Since then I've had to bond with him in order to maintain the great relationship I have with my daughter and also keep an eye out for her. But it's tough, uncomfortable. It is what it is. As we say here "să fie ea sănătoasă" - as long as she's healthy (health is the most important thing).

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[-] [email protected] -2 points 1 month ago

I think you're assuming a bit too much (or, more specifically, too little) about the difficulties I've encountered.

Could say the same to you, given that popular media was your go-to...

[-] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Oh, so you just can't relate to current events, politics, various hobbies, classical art, etc then to the point of having nothing to talk about with someone?

Or just remember what it was like to be ten years younger?

Can't even watch new shows or whatever together?

Fair enough.

[-] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

If that's enough for you, then that's enough for you. But trying to impose your standards on others is not ok.

Different people have different needs and interests, that should have been obvious by now.

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