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this post was submitted on 03 May 2025
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You're conceding the win. An ex leaving you for you drinking only to hook up with a drug addict is to be laughed at I reckon. My ex didn't like that I smoked a little pot, she left me for a guy who likes smoking a bit of cock. Not that there's anything wrong with bisexuality but monogamy was something she claimed to value in the relationship.
Accept that's she's your ex. You had some good time and they're now over. You shouldn't have to upend your life over this.
Yeah I should be laughing but I don't know why I'm not. It feels like a sick prank to leave me for alleged addiction only to hook up with an actual addict. I'm not stupid but I feel stupid that this is actually bothering me because she's the actual degen here.
Hey man, getting left is hard. The single time in my life I considered killing myself was after my first long term girlfriend left me, thankfully I didn't. It took a while but eventually I healed and was able to move on, due to an odd personal situation I won't get into here I would still see her fairly often after she left me, not the same as a small town but I can sympathize. It was really quite hard for me.
I've now been with my current partner for 7 years and I couldn't be happier, it's a better relationship than I had with the girl I considered offing myself over. I still see my old girlfriend atleast once a year, again due to the odd personal thing and we're both happy with new partners and we can talk and be casual with each other when we do interact, and I wish nothing but the best to her and her husband
TLDR, this sucks and will hurt a lot for a while but as annoying and cliché as it is to say, it really will get better. Stay strong brother, don't unplug yourself
Smoking a bit of cock? Me thinks there's a typo. Though, I'm not in the drug scene so maybe I'm wrong.
Sounds like they're just calling the person a serial cheater