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How did you get your first job? Apartment/house? Dating?

I ask because I really only did so after years of bouncing around from colleges, summer abroad programs, living with friends, and really just use Zillow or StreetEasy to look.

(I also ask because I want a distraction from the world that isn't entertainment or documentary/non-fiction and often daydream about what things I could have done different had I known things - real life skills - earlier.)

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

I didn’t really feel like an adult until I lived in a different country for a year and had to figure out literally everything on my own. Kind of a sink or swim situation where I forced myself to adapt without any safety net to rely on. I think just psychologically distancing oneself from family and friends is enough without going that far though, properly getting in the headspace of fully shouldering all responsibilities and decision making goes a long way. Understand that you truly are free and can steer your life in the direction you choose, there are countless material constraints along the way but they are all surmountable if you make the effort.

Don’t give a fuck about what anyone thinks and try to deprogram all the silly social expectations that have been beaten into us our whole lives. You are worth more than your labor and all the other social signifiers we’re told to value. Good vibes and genuine respect are worth far more than anything else. At the end of it all the only thing that matters is if you had a good time and hey, hopefully you were able to help others have a good time too.