Oh, I completely admit that they're human beings. I vehemently disagree with the "worth talking to" bit of that sentence, though. As for their pain... I don't give a flying fuck about it. These people are the root cause of an enormous amount of misery. It's possible that they aren't all cruel, but every single one of them decided that cruelty wasn't a deal breaker for them. I have zero faith that the vast majority of them will ever be redeemable.
We saw the exact same thing after the civil war, by the way. Taking the federal boot off of their necks led to Jim Crow laws and the KKK. Talking to them didn't fix that. Reasoning with them didn't fix that.
I think that the main point of difference between us is that you believe that all life is sacred, and should be preserved at all cost. I do not believe that.