So, a while ago it came out that my uncle（who's from outside the family and married in) cheated on my aunt (mom's sister).
They're still married. Honestly not sure what they'll do since he is the one with the job and our family doesn't have enough to support her and her children.
But I just don't get it. I get falling out of love or even finding other people besides your spouse attractive, but cheating is just such a layered lasagna of shit.
1.You want to eat your cake and have it too. (There's an entire community of people who cheat on their spouses called "cake eaters."). I don't understand what you get out of that though unless you're just really lustful (and even I wouldn't do that and I'm a lustful removed). If you want to break up/divorce that's fine but you can't just have emotional/physical relationships without changing anything. Which leads to point 2
2.How little fucking respect do you have for your wife and family? Because the thing is that youre denying your partner any autonomy in the relationship. You dont even respect them enough to even talk about it, or you don't respect them enough to think they deserve to know about it or will ever find out.
I mean look, there been some stories I've heard where I understand, if the relationship is already dead. It still sucks but I can understand if it's inevitable anyway. But otherwise i just can't conceptualize how selfish and shit you have to be to do it.
And I wouldn't ask if it wasn't so common. I mean it doesn't happen in every relationship but it's so common basically everyone is paranoid their partner is cheating on them. So I just really don't get it
I'm assuming it would be harder between the two of you if you are trying to take a pre-existing monogamous relationship and turn it into an open relationship (and for good reason, since the relationship has been built on the idea of monogamy up to that point). As for how friends and family feel, it's not really their business? Mind you, I don't mean that in a culturally blind, naive way. I'm sure where you live and what the culture is could mean that there's more of a potential consequence for trying to do so, depending on where exactly it is. But as a general principle, if we're looking at it from the cultural standpoint that the worst you'll get is some people judging or complaining at you about it, there are plenty of other things people get judged over and at a certain point you need to put your foot down and say you're an adult and it's not their business what you do in your personal life, as long as it isn't harming others.