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My Recommendations Always Get Ignored (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 weeks ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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No one ever reads or watches what I recommend (that's a lie, one person does). I usually don't expect others to engage with my interests, I wouldn't hold a grudge if they don't. But it upsets me when this occurs in the event of exchanging recommendations with someone who ends up not reciprocating. This has happened on four separate occasions with different people. While I'd actually read the book, give my opinion and genuinely engage with them, they would postpone doing so and constantly make excuses until they think I've forgotten. One time I made a promise with a friend to watch a series of their choice and vice versa, guess who did and who didn't (“My internet connection is so bad” you're literally watching other shows as we speak...)

This begs the question: are my recommendations this bad? I'd like to put that to the test. Here are the recommendations in question:

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

It's definitely common, when friends recommend something I'll try it for a short while, but I will be quick to give up. And I end in awkward situations.

I'm very hesitant to give recommendations unless someone really asks, and I'm very hesitant to take recommendations in case they get frustrated like you are. Often I'll get a "you should check out x", I take a look, decide it's really not for me, and then my options are to either say I didn't think I could bear watching/reading it, or to delay until it's forgotten, and the latter's typically easier.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

I think I'm grasping slightly more the other person's perspective, thank you for your comment. I personally don't recall dealing with such a situation because I simply decline on the spot if I was recommended something that doesn't fall within my niche. I guess it'ssomewhat rude? But it does avoid eventual misunderstandings.