neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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I'm coming from all and I'm not at all neurodiverse. I'm an extrovert and i usually fit well with groups. I read your posts and maybe i can help. It's hard to assess why by a few posts but i feel you're quite negative, which is understandable because of what you're going through. I wasn't going to post because i didn't think you would relate to what i was saying but another neurotypical posted as well so i figured, why not.
I commend you for putting yourself out there, you seem to be doing great! Don't be so hard on yourself, your inner life reflects on your outer posture. Being so negative you might be choosing topics that are bringing people down, or your body language is putting people off or you aren't being a good conversationalist. Remember, people like to discuss common interests and having fun.
You also seem intelligent, which is something you gotta tone down somewhat in social settings, in general. People just don't care about how smart you are, they won't be impressed and sometimes they might feel bad about themselves. Try to ping pong the discussion with questions about the topic or about the person you're talking to. If the conversation dies, try to think of a related topic that they'd be interested in or ping off something they said. Let people talk to you and show interest. Lead the interaction with your heart, not with your head. That means trying to develop the ability to feel your conversation partner and/or group and letting that feeling do the talking.
Try to learn how to keep a solid eye contact (but don't stare people down, it's all about timing it and breaking it depending on how comfortable the person is) and be mindful of your posture and the way you dress. Now i know this is hell to some people, but if you can't look into people's eyes, try looking at their eyelids, or their nose bridge.
Give people time to get to know you. Sometimes you just gotta be on the sidelines putting your best self out there so people get familiar with you. Try to be relaxed and later on confident. If you're nervous you will make the other person nervous and they won't quite figure out why they're nervous and will leave. Avoid getting too personal too fast. Telling too much about yourself off the bat scares people off. Like grabbing a book and telling a person the highlights of the story then giving them to read it. You're spoiling the adventure of getting to know you.
When you address a group, remember to turn around to face different people as you speak, and not just facing the person who spoke with you last. That way you're including everyone in the conversation. Don't be afraid to share the floor and bring attention to other people who also wanna talk.
I understand I'm telling you something that is difficult because you're neurodiverse, but i truly believe you can do it with practice and dedication and acceptance that you will fail many times in the process until you succeed, much like learning math or the piano. In particular because this goes against what you'd naturally find intuitive. But remember that this is an achievable goal nonetheless.