Enough negative experiences reinforce and define behavior.

Unless you don't let them.

IDK why you think every individual magically changing is something realistic.

To be honest, it doesn't sound like you want to change. You are so resistant to it.

If every individual you approach gives you a lecture you might want to check out not being around those people. Try something different.

I've never, ever gotten a lecture. I've been married for about four years, but before the pandemic I picked up 4 women in a year that led to relationships of months before I ended them when I realized there wasn't enough there to keep me interested. Don't get me wrong, i've been dumped plenty and rejected plenty. I just learned to move on from the rejection.

It's like job hunting, it's a numbers game and every time you try you have a chance. Every time you don't try nothing changes.

I just can't imagine being lectured just by approaching someone and saying hi, asking them a question that is pertinent to the scenario, and giving them a chance to speak.

Congratulations you lived in a different world.

And I'm still in this world. Dude I still date. I'm only in my 50's. I'm not even as old as Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise.

And unfortunately, one of the only places that are consistently telling young men they AREN'T disgusting, perverse and annoying is the same place that actively makes men into annoying, perverse, disgusting people. For a lot of young men, the only consistent positive reinforcement they receive is from Tate et al. The only ones teaching men (poorly, but still) how to navigate these interpersonal relationships are the ones turning them into pests.

None of this is the individual woman's fault. None of this is the individual man's fault. It's a societal failing, and the only way we're going to fix it is as a society. Men's problems are women's problems, and women's problems are men's problems. We all shape the world we share, and we all have a duty to shape it into a better one, for everyone.

When your mom angrily throws out a Victoria’s Secret catalog calling it “disgusting” how are you supposed to feel about liking the pictures?

How about not thinking that since you are no longer a child listening to your mother?

A little empathy goes a long way, friend. Obviously I have personal responsibility. My post was not an attempt to eschew responsibility, but to tell my story.

A lot of people are in similar situations. I AM lucky enough to be smart and able to pull myself out of that kind of upbringing. Here's the kicker - a LOT of people aren't. Or are in even worse situations. Understanding where people are coming from and the unique challenges they've experienced, that shale who they are - that's the only way we're going to change anything societally.