If every individual you approach gives you a lecture you might want to check out not being around those people. Try something different.
I've never, ever gotten a lecture. I've been married for about four years, but before the pandemic I picked up 4 women in a year that led to relationships of months before I ended them when I realized there wasn't enough there to keep me interested. Don't get me wrong, i've been dumped plenty and rejected plenty. I just learned to move on from the rejection.
It's like job hunting, it's a numbers game and every time you try you have a chance. Every time you don't try nothing changes.
I just can't imagine being lectured just by approaching someone and saying hi, asking them a question that is pertinent to the scenario, and giving them a chance to speak.