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submitted 4 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

God if this happened 15 years ago I'd be super upset and defensive. I try to apply the Hexbear Code of Conduct in the real world, so I'm probably above average for cis men for being decent to trans people (but still there's a lot of space to grow!). I've always failed miserably at being a normal cis guy, I'm shit at sports, I don't do tough guy attitude well, and I'm pretty kind and emotional. I've also taken advantage of the recent explosion of gender fluidity recently to update my style a bit: there are more pinks and pastel colours in my wardrobe than their used to be.

I forgot to mention, my voice has a bit of a "gay twang", as friends have told me. Thankfully it's never bothered me, but I get asked if I'm gay a lot.

So maybe it's partly my fault, but a couple of the younger trans people in my life are convinced that I'm a trans woman. I think it's sweet, they've let me into their secret club. They often reassure me that I'm a woman if I want and that's OK.

My only real fear is that I'll waste their time or their good intentions. They seem really motivated to help me socially transition, but I can't see going anywhere past a cis dude that sometimes wears cute shirts.

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[-] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago

Hell yeah do ur thing. I’m a cis man as well but I don’t really fw gender roles, the social expectations, the toxic masculinity etc. While I’m outwardly very masc presenting I think it’s cool to do nonconformant shit and be true to yourself however that looks. For me it’s denying the social roles and redefining masculinity into something healthy with which I do identify. Exploring different styles and fashion is another cool ass way to dive into yourself. I’m glad you’re confident enough in yourself to shirk that social pressure

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